Books for all ages

Age 4 – 8

What’s the Big Secret? by Laurie Krasny Brown

It’s NOT the Stork! by Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley

Where Did I Come From? by Peter Mayle

Where Willie Went by Nicholas Allan

Amazing You!: Getting Smart About Your Private Parts by Gail Saltz and Lynne Avril Cravath

I Said No! A Kid-to-Kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private by Kimberly King and Zack King

Your Body Belongs to You by Cornelia Maude Spelman and Teri Weidner

Do You Have a Secret? (Let’s Talk About It) by Jennifer Moore-Mallinos and Marta Fabrega

A Terrible Thing Happened by Margaret M. Holmes, Sasha J. Mudlaff and Cary Pillo

No Trespassing- This is MY Body! by Pattie Fitzgerald

Super Duper Safety School: Safety Rules for Kids and Grown-Ups by Pattie Fitzgerald

Who Has What? All About Girls’ Bodies and Boys’ Bodies by Robie H. Harris

Miles is the Boss of His Body by Samantha Kurtzman-Counter and Abbie Schiller

My Body! What I Say Goes! by Jayneen Sanders

You, Me and Empathy by Jayneen Sanders

No Difference Between Us: Teaching Children About Gender Equality by Jayneen Sanders

What Makes a Baby by Cory Silverberg

Zak’s Safari: A Story about Donor-Conceived Kids of Two-Mom Families by Christy Tyner

Mommy, Mama and Me by Leslea Newman

Daddy, Pappa and Me by Leslea Newman

A Tale of Two Mommies by Vanita Oelschlager

A Tale of Two Daddies by Vanita Oelschlager

Heather Has Two Mommies by Leslea Newman

Stella Brings the Family by Miriam B. Schiffer

What’s in There? All About Before You Were Born (Let’s Talk About You and Me) by Robie H. Harris

What’s So Yummy? All About Eating Well and Feeling Good (Let’s Talk about You and Me)by Robie H. Harris

I Am Jazz by Jessica Herthel and Jazz Jennings

Red: A Crayon’s Story by Michael Hall

Who Are You? A Kid’s Guide to Gender Identity by Brook Pessin-Whedbee

My Princess Boy: A Mom’s Story about a Young Boy Who Loves to Dress Up by Cheryl Kilodavis

Are You a Boy or Are You a Girl by Sarah Savage

10,000 Dresses by Marcus Ewert

All I Want to Be Is Me by Phyllis Rothblatt

My Body Is Private by Linda Walvoord Girard

An Exceptional Children’s Guide to Touch: Teaching Social and Physical Boundaries to Kidsby Hunter Manasco

Those are MY Private Parts by Diane Hansen

No Means No!: Teaching Children About Personal Boundaries, Respect and Consent by Jayneen Sanders

I Love My Hair! by Natasha Anastasia Tarpley

The Colors of Us by Karen Katz

She Persisted: 13 American Women Who Changed the World by Chelsea Clinton

30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 3-7: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy (Volume 1) by Educate and Empower Kids

They, She, He, Me: Free to Be! by Maya Gonzalez and Matthew SG

How Mamas Love Their Babies by Juniper Fitzgerald

Birds and Bees and more: How babies are made and families form by Dr. Sandra Caron and Samantha Schulte

Be Who You Are– by Todd Parr

What Does a Princess Really Look Like? by Mark Loewen

Introducing Teddy: A Gentle Story About Gender and Friendship by Jessica Walton

These are My Eyes, This is My Nose, This is My Vulva, These are my Toes by Lexx Brown James


Age 9 – 13

It’s So Amazing by Robie Harris and Michael Emberley

What’s Happening to Me? by Peter Mayle

It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health by Robie Harris and Michael Emberley

The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras

The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Girls by Lynda Madaras

Let’s Talk About S-E-X: A Guide for Kids 9 to 12 and Their Parents by Sam Gitchel and Lorri Foster

The Feelings Book: The Care and Keeping of Your Emotions by Dr. Lynda Madison (American Girl)

Sex is a Funny Word: A Book about Bodies, Feelings and YOU by Cory Silverberg

Talk to Me First: Everything You Need to Know to Become Your Kids’ “Go-To” Person about Sex by Deborah Roffman

Asking About Sex & Growing Up: A Question and Answer Book for Kids by Joanna Cole

The Care and Keeping of You 1: The Body Book for Younger Girls by Cara Natterson

The Care and Keeping of You 2: The Body Book for Older Girls by Cara Natterson

The Period Book: A Girl’s Guide to Growing Up by Karen Gravelle and Jennifer Gravelle

George by Alex Gino

There’s Something New About You: A Girl’s Guide to Growing Up by Melisa Holmes, MD and Trish Hutchinson, MD (Girlology)

You Got IT. by Melisa Holmes, MD and Trish Hutchinson, MD (Girlology)

A Girl’s Guide to Stuff That Matters by Melisa Holmes, MD and Trish Hutchinson, MD (Girlology)

Just the Facts: A Guy’s Guide to Growing Up by Melisa Holmes, MD and Trish Hutchinson, MD (Guyology)

Kharma Khullar’s Mustache by Kristi Wientge

A Smart Girl’s Guide to Liking Herself- Even On the Bad Days by Laurie Zelinger

30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 8-11: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy (Volume 2) by Educate and Empower Kids

Tell Me About Sex, Grandma (Ordinary Terrible Things) by Anastasia Higginbotham

Time to Celebrate: A Celebration of a Girl’s First Menstrual Period by Joan Morais

The Girls’ Guide to Sex Education by Michelle Hope

Celebrate Your Body (And Its Changes, Too!) : The Ultimate Puberty Book for Girls by Sonya Renee Taylor

Age 14+

Sex: A Book for Teens by Nikol Hasler

Sex For Guys by Manne Forssberg

100 Questions You’d Never Ask Your Parents: Straight Answers to Teens’ Questions About Sex, Sexuality and Health by Elisabeth Henderson and Nancy Armstrong, MD

S.E.X: The All-You-Need-to-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Corinna

Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships by Ruth Bell

Our Bodies, Ourselves by Boston’s Women’s Health Book Collective

For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values and Healthby Al Vernacchio

Sex, Puberty and All that Stuff: A Guide to Growing Up by Jacqui Bailey

This Book is Gay by Juno Dawson

Queer: The Ultimate LGBT Guide for Teens by Kathy Belge, Marke Bieschke and Christian Robinson

Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out by Susan Kuklin

Being Jazz: My Life as a (Transgender) Teen by Jazz Jennings

A Teen Girls’ Guide to Getting Off by Eva Sless

Girl: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You by Karen Rayne, Ramsey Beyer and Nyk Rayne

Hang-Ups, Hook-Ups, and Holding Out: Stuff You Need to Know About Sex, Your Body and Dating by Melisa Holmes, MD and Trish Hutchinson, MD (Girlology)

Doing it Right: Making Smart, Safe and Satisfying Choices about Sex by Bronwen Pardes

The Self-Esteem Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Build Confidence and Achieve Your Goals by Lisa M. Schab, LCSW

The Body Image Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help Girls Develop a Healthy Body Image in an Image-Obsessed World by Julia V. Taylor, PhD

For parents

From Diapers to Dating: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children- From Infancy to Middle School by Debra W. Haffner

Beyond the Big Talk: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Teens- From Middle School to High School and Beyond by Debra W. Haffner

Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children about Sex and Character by Pepper Schwartz and Dominic Cappello

Everything You Never Wanted Your Kids to Know About Sex (But Were Afraid They’d Ask): The Secrets to Surviving Your Child’s Sexual Development from Birth to the Teens by Justin Richarson and Mark Schuster

How to Talk to Your Child About Sex: It’s Best to Start Early but It’s Never Too Late- A Step by Step Guide for Every Age by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre

Body Safety Education: A Parent’s Guide to Protecting Kids from Sexual Abuse by Jayneen Sanders

Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Devorah Heitner, PhD

Sexploitation: Helping Kids Develop Healthy Sexuality in a Porn-Driven World by Cindy Pierce

she-ology: The Definitive Guide to Women’s Intimate Health. Period. by Shelly A. Ross, MD

Breaking the Hush Factor: Tips for Talking to Teens About Sex by Dr. Karen Rayne

Venus in Blue Jeans: Why Mothers and Daughters Need to Talk About Sex by Nathalie Bartle

Your Daughter’s Bedroom: Insights for Raising Confident Women by Joyce T. McFadden

Girls of Color, Sexuality and Sex Education by Sharon Lamb, Tangela Roberts and Aleksandra Plocha

You’d Be So Pretty If…: Teaching Our Daughters to Love Their Bodies- Even When We Don’t Love Our Own by Dara Chadwick

The New Puberty: How to Navigate Early Development in Today’s Girls by Louise Greenspan and Julianna Deardorff

Teen World Confidential: Five Minute Topics to Open Conversation About Sex and Relationships by Kim T. Cook, RN, CHES

30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 12+: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy (Volume 3) by Educate and Empower Kids

105 Ways to Celebrate Menstruation by Kami McBride

101 Ways to Help Your Daughter Love Her Body by Brenda Lane Richardson and Elane Rehr

Becoming Peers: Mentoring Girls Into Womanhood by DeAnna L’am

Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters – and How to Get It by Laurie Mintz

The Wonder Down Under: The Insider’s Guide to the Anatomy, Biology, and Reality of the Vagina by Dr. Nina Brochmann and Ellen Stokken Dahl

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, PhD

The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes by Dr. Diane Ehrensaft

It’s Not the Birds and the Bees, It’s Sex!: How to Talk to Children About Sex by Dr. TaMara Griffin

Beyond Birds and Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids About Sex, Love and Equality by Bonnie J. Rough

Drawn to Sex: The Basics by Erika Moen and Matthew Nolan

A massive thank you to Sex Positive Families US for compiling this incredible list of books!

Useful websites

A mighty girl :The world’s largest collection of books, toys and movies for smart, confident, and courageous girls.

My Kid is Gay:  Helping Families Understand Their LGBTQ Kids

Teen Source:  Sex and Health and You

Stay Teen: Ask us anything

Respectability: Fighting stigma and educating about sexuality & disability

Talk With Your Kids

StayTeen awesome short videos about nearly everything


Parenting & Family Gender Spectrum  A massive list of resources

Colage  For LGBTQI parents

The Porn Conversation


Darkness To Light  Sexual abuse prevention training

ASHA Publications Be an Askable Parent

Love Is Respect

AMAZE More info, Less weird

Positive & Powerful Social Media